Connection. Love. Belonging.
And that’s why it can hurt so much when our relationships aren’t going the way we want.
Whether with family members, friends, or a significant other, our relationships can be a source of great joy or great upset.
Can you relate to Sandra’s story?
(Sandra is a composite of my former clients.)
Sandra was known for being highly capable at work and super dependable as a friend. However, when it came to romance, she found herself experiencing a painful pattern.
She was hoping it would be different with Chad.
Things seemed great in the beginning. He was charming and attentive, always concerned for her. Then his concern morphed into criticism – questioning her judgment, challenging her values. More often she was feeling “not good enough” rather than cherished. Conflicts became more frequent, and she was confused by how minor things could turn into such big deals.
Sandra really cared for Chad and wanted their relationship to work, so she doubled down on her efforts to please and adapt to him. She knew he had gone through a lot of hard stuff in his life, so it seemed like the loving thing to do to overlook as much as she could.
“Maybe he just needs to see how much I love him,” she thought.
Over time, it became more and more difficult to keep her feelings bottled up. Sandra didn’t want to “burden” her friends with her problems, especially since she was known as the go-to for support and advice.
But things weren’t getting better.
Something needed to change.
That’s when she bravely reached out for help.
Through therapy, Sandra began to re-discover her worth and change the patterns that were no longer working for her.
You can, too!
You don’t have to continue to be overwhelmed and uncertain, torn up about what to do next, how to make things better. I can help you effectively move through the feelings you are experiencing. We’ll clarify available options, so you can confidently take the next steps that make sense for you.
We’ll look at what’s working and what’s not in your relationships and find ways to strengthen the healthy and minimize the unhealthy. You’ll get a clearer sense of what’s within your control and what’s not, what’s yours to change and what’s not.
You’ll strengthen your ability to live from your core values and your true self and experience more the connections you long for.
You don’t have to do this alone. Invest now in a healthier you. You matter. You’re worth it.