Couples Counseling

There was a time when you felt excitement at the sound of his car pulling up. Now your stomach churns and tension fills the air. The armor comes on.

What will tonight hold? Bickering followed by silent retreat? It feels too much like a minefield around here.

Your warmth and passion have gotten buried somewhere under a pile of unresolved hurt and unmet expectations.

“Maybe it’s just me. Maybe I expect too much.”

You care for each other and about the commitment you made, but it’s becoming harder and harder to imagine a future together if this is how it’s going to be.

Take heart. You’re in the right place.

I can help you cultivate the safe and satisfying connection you both desire, where each of you feels valued, respected, accepted, and cared for. Your relationship can be a safe haven where the protective shields can be set aside.

As we get started, I’ll spend the time needed to get a clear picture of your relationship, of who each of you are, and of the history you bring into your relationship. Often, this involves meeting with the two of you initially and then with each of you individually as I gather information. Then we’ll come back together, clarify your goals, and make a plan for how to move your relationship forward.

My role won’t be as referee or judge. Rather I will be a facilitator, even gardener, helping to weed out unhealthy patterns as we plant and water healthy ones.

During our sessions, you’ll experience transforming, healing interactions as well as learn skills that can be applied at home. Conflict can become less of a connection-killer and more of a pathway to increased intimacy.

The lifelong dividends of investing in your marriage in this way will be beyond measure.